A few nights ago I had a spontanious moment and invited a heapload of friends from high school days to celebrate an old friend's birthday. We had a nice roomful, ate food, played games, and watched little Collin flirt with all the women. As we sat talking, I realized I had NOTHING (except the far long past) in common with these people. I am 24, I am happily married, I have a kid, and I am almost done with school.
These guys started talking about all their high school peers, "the losers", messing up by not getting degrees, by getting married before the age of 30 and having kids. (I have been excluded from these "losers" because I am the Mormon in the group and that means I am doing what is expected of the "mormon girl"...gee thanks stereotypes) They started ranting on a friend of mine who just graduated with her bachelor's degree because she decided the next best step was to go on a mission, instead of getting her Master's degree first!!! What is so bad about traveling, standing up for what you believe in for 18 months and finding oneself???? Yes, eduacation is important, but knowing who you are and finding what you want I think is slightly a little more important.
And to have children before the age of 30 is the worst sin imaginable. After all, having kids means you can't get drunk and party all night and we are not ready to give those things up. "Of course once you have kids, you will never go to school again." I know of several who are attending school and have graduated after kids. "And those people who have kids will never get to be themselves again, won't get to experience, to live." You have got to be kidding me, I have learned more, and experienced more wonder from my one year old than I did at ASU.
Have I mentioned that these people range from 24-30 years old, still live with their moms, and don't have their bachelor degrees yet?
So I sat with my friend Lindsey yesterday. She has been married as long as I have (2 weeks apart), we got to be pregnant together (our kids are two months apart) and she is such a good person. She is such a good friend and I realized from the party the other night, that I take her for granted. We talked about needing friends that have related values and who put family as a priority above anything else. So watch out Leaner, I think we are going to start a Mama's Club and try to get some NOT "loser" people together.
Here's to Mama's and to married couples that are in love no matter how young or old they may be.
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Here's to us mommas!!! Yippee Hooray for us!
Those guys, our old "friends" well they are missing out on the BEST part of life, being loved by a wonderful spouse, and children. Having someone snuggle up to you and say "I love you mom" or holding a precious new life in your arms, a life you helped create. They are missing out on the real reason we are here, to have our families.
Really what are we without our families?
What is a friend? Someone who makes you happy that you are you. Someone who helps make you a better person. Someone who helps you through the bad times; is there for you even if you don't contact them for years. No age barriers just those common things. Families, etc can be some of your best friends.
You go girl!! Mom's are the only way to go. You are definately living the best part of life by being happily married and having your little Collin. He's lucky to have a Mom who stays home to take care of him. That's definatly worth more than anything else in this life.
Me and helena were at Costco yesterday and we saw your "friends" well the white, red headed ones anyways. They are the same as I remember them when I was little. Your post made me almost cry because I really lost all of my friends once I got married because I am different now. I am not sad about it which is the weird part I am more happy. I have spent more time with my family and I have realized how important family is. Love ya cuzz!!!
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